It is statistically proven that married women end up broke when they allow their partners to control the funds right from the start of the relationship. Women who have allowed their partner to manage the cash end up financially ruined.. Women who allow another male partner to convince them that a stay home mum is not worth being paid for.
Put them into a very vulnerable situation.
Giving away your financial independence is a person’s sentence regarding personal decisions in life.
I see and read so many cases where mums are left in poverty due to not having their own bank account.
Divorce It Won’t Happen To Me
On average divorce is as common as getting married. So if you as a lady have allowed your man to have joint bank accounts. You are leaving yourself in a very fragile state of poverty. In my generation, I was taught that a man would provide. That joint accounts are normal. My parents argued for all of their marriage life because my dad controlled the money. he spent the cash as he pleased and never allowed my mum to have items of her dreams.
As a result, she was very miserable until the table turned.
As a Christian, I was always taught that divorce would not happen. That all would be well. I was conditioned to trust my partner 100%. Many Christian women fall into this trap. In reality, the man always controls the money of his wife. And she is left begging for bread. Asking for cash and explaining why she needs the money.
This damages a women’s self-confidence. Over the years she is lead to believe that she has no skill or capabilities in handling money.
Learn basic mathematics for a happier and more fulfilled lifestyle.
Which marriage is more likely to end in divorce?
Relationships will break down, don’t think it won’t happen to you. Be prepared for that moment and pray it never comes.
Hiding Expenditure From Your Partner
The worse relationship behaviour is buying stuff and hiding it from your male partner. How many relationships start off like this? How man ladies buy an item not tell the husband and hide it for a few weeks and then wear it? How stressful and dishonest is this in the marriage realm of relationships? Defeats the purpose of buying it in the first place.
If you have your own bank account with a set salary then it gives you the means to learn maths and live within your means. It makes you as a woman responsible for your spending habits.
And conditioning your mental state of what happens when you are buying and what is why you are buying.
My whole married life has been like this. I always worked and earned too. Due to my Italian upbringing, I have made myself believe that my financial decisions are down to what my husband says.
It has been the biggest stress and argument in my 23 years of marriage. The only one to blame is me. I never enforced to get involved in big decision-making.
It’s Never Too Late
Don’t beat yourself up as a woman to regain your financial control. Sit down with your partner and work it out. I assure you this is going to be a tough talk and battle, It may result in ina divorce. But if your partner loves you he will understand and guide you.
How many celebrity women have been left unstuck? Wendy Williams a famous American TV presenter has had all her bank accounts frozen by the men she entrusted to look after them. She is in a very vulnerable state of affairs. I have known women who have had very rich partners and ended up literally broke due to not having personal savings and a simple individual bank account.
Many women lose out because the husband controls the cash, gets the best lawyers to fight the wife and has no leg to stand on. Since the pandemic, I know of a few female friends that have been screwed over due to this.
Men Grow Handsome As They Get Older
The harsh reality is a man grows better with age. He can leave the marital home wherever he wants. He can still create children with younger women. It is a common thread of behaviour when a woman goes through menopause. Ladies’ life does change at fifty. Life can throw you many challenges. Don’t be unplanned regarding financial independence.
Pamper yourself and get an individual bank account. Self-pampering was not what I was taught as generation X. Even though i earned from the age of 13. I never looked to self-pampering myself within the marriage as much as I do now at fifty.
I have watched Judge Judy for over 25years. She is an American arbitration-based reality court show presided over by former Manhattan Family Court Judge Judith Sheindlin. She has said in the twenty-five years of arbitration. So many women have been left in financial ruin because of not having an individual bank account. For also not creating an outlet for extra income.
Don’t be enslaved in a financial war within the marital home. Never allow anyone to convince you of your self-worth as a woman regarding money.
I have two teenage girls and L is teaching them about financial independence. Why, because as ladies we are worth it.
Money equals self-worth as a woman.
I would recommend watching them on Netflix, Tinder Swindler and on HBO, A Very British Scandal. How women have been left broke due to lack of selfcare.