Growing up in rural Australia, I faced my fair share of challenges. You see, I’m Italian, and my olive skin and love for Italian food made me stand out in a predominantly British and Irish community. The taunts, the bullying, the feeling of being less-than – it was all too familiar. My self-worth was constantly put to the test.
Then, I ventured to England, hoping for a fresh start. But guess what? The judgments continued. I may not fit the conventional standards of beauty, but I refuse to be just another Vogue cliché. I’ve missed out on opportunities, even free meals, just because I wasn’t deemed “Kate Moss Pretty.”
Fast forward to London Fashion Week, and I found myself in a sea of judgmental eyes. My uniqueness was seen as a threat, and I was made to feel cheap and undervalued. It was a tough pill to swallow, but I kept my head high.
In the last three years, while renting in Italy, I’ve encountered more mistreatment. I can’t help but wonder if it’s because I don’t fit the Italian stereotype. Recently, I was falsely accused of things I didn’t do by my rental’s owners. It’s disheartening how people judge you solely based on appearances.
Even here in Thailand, where I own properties, I haven’t been spared from mistreatment. Renters have sworn at me and bullied me, telling me to leave my own property simply because they don’t like me. The audacity!
In Italy, at my own storage facility, a man accused me of being a thief and not paying for my storage. He judged me solely on my looks. It took the owner’s intervention to set things right, but the experience left a bitter taste in my mouth. Why do some men seem to relish challenging my self-worth?
The persistent mistreatment and judgment have taken a toll on me. Is it because I don’t fit someone else’s definition of beauty? Is it because of my Christian faith? Why do people believe they have the right to treat me poorly?
I am a Christian, and my self-worth comes from God. But it begs the question: why do I keep getting mistreated? Is it because I don’t conform to society’s standards? I wish people would just mind their own business and leave me alone.
Even when I’m paying good money for a rental property, I’ve encountered individuals who make me feel like a punching bag. What gives them the right to decide that I don’t belong?
My last rental experience in Italy was particularly traumatizing. The flat leaked sewage into my bedroom, making me very ill. When I left, the landlord fabricated lies about the condition I left the place. Why do I keep encountering people with money who feel the need to mistreat and lie about my family?
Is it a message from God that Italy isn’t where I belong? Perhaps I should consider buying instead of renting. The constant mistreatment has left me feeling bitter, scared, fearful, and depressed.
Working With Luxury Car Brands
Why do these people feel entitled to judge me? I review luxury cars, and some have the audacity to say I’m not worthy of the brand because my image doesn’t fit their preconceived notions. Why do people believe they have the right to determine my self-worth?
In a world that can often let you down, here are some tips to maintain your self-worth. Many times people speak over me why on earth does Bentley work with you? Who are you a person to even think you have the right to ask the question? Not everyone is going to celebrate your success,
1. Embrace Your Uniqueness
Instead of conforming to society’s standards, celebrate what makes you different. Your uniqueness is your superpower.
2. Focus on Inner Beauty
Self-worth isn’t solely about appearance. Remember that true beauty comes from within, and it’s your character that truly matters.
3. Stay True to Your Faith
If you have faith, let it be your anchor. Your self-worth comes from a higher source, and no one can take that away from you.
4. Surround Yourself with Positivity
Seek out people who lift you up and appreciate your worth. Distance yourself from those who bring you down.
5. Advocate for Yourself
Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself when mistreated. Your voice matters, and you deserve respect. You can read about all the bullying I got at London Fashion Week.
6. Consider Ownership
If rental properties bring you stress and mistreatment, explore the possibility of homeownership. It could provide a sense of stability and security.
Remember, you are worthy, unique, and deserving of respect and kindness. Don’t let anyone’s judgment or mistreatment define your self-worth. Embrace your individuality and live an opulent life filled with confidence and self-love.
Meeting Famous People
Meeting a famous person and experiencing mistreatment from them can be a challenging and disheartening experience. It’s important to remember that people, including celebrities, have their own motivations, attitudes, and behaviors, and these can vary widely from person to person. While I can’t provide specific insight into the individual’s mindset or intentions, I can offer some general observations that might help you understand why such interactions occur:
Ego and Entitlement: Some famous individuals may have a strong sense of entitlement due to their fame and success. They might believe they are above others and treat people differently as a result.
Insecurity: Paradoxically, some famous people may have deep insecurities and use mistreatment as a way to assert dominance or protect their own self-esteem.
Pressure and Stress: The pressures of fame and the constant scrutiny from the public can take a toll on a person’s mental and emotional well-being. This stress may lead to impolite or rude behavior.
Bad Day: Just like anyone else, famous people can have bad days or personal issues that affect their behavior. Unfortunately, you may have caught them on one of those days.
Miscommunication or Misunderstanding: Sometimes, interactions can go awry due to miscommunication or misunderstandings. What you perceive as mistreatment might not have been their intention.
Unresolved Personal Issues: The famous person might have their own unresolved personal issues, insecurities, or past experiences that influence their interactions with others.
It’s essential to remember that their behavior is a reflection of them, not you. Your worth as a person is not determined by how someone famous or not treats you. If you ever find yourself in such a situation again, consider how you want to respond. You can choose to assert yourself calmly, seek an apology or explanation, or simply disengage from the situation to protect your well-being. Ultimately, your self-worth is something you should hold onto regardless of how others may treat you.
Absolutely, you’re absolutely right. No one should have the power to make you feel like you don’t belong or to judge your worth. It’s a common experience for many people to face judgment and mistreatment at some point in their lives, but it’s essential to remember that those judgments don’t define your true value.
Belonging is about being true to yourself, embracing your uniqueness, and surrounding yourself with people who appreciate and respect you for who you are. Don’t let anyone’s negativity or judgment affect your self-esteem or sense of belonging. Keep focusing on your strengths, your individuality, and your self-worth. You have the power to define your worth, and it should always be based on your own assessment and not the opinions of others. Stay strong and confident in who you are, and don’t allow anyone to make you feel like a “scum bag.” You deserve respect, kindness, and acceptance just like anyone else.
I love to write about opulent fashion & lifestyle on this personal blog GracieOpulanza.com. I am also the co-founder and editor of MenStyleFashion.com, where I am known as the female voice for menswear.